Mary and Martha Served Twice

Mary and Martha twice served me a lifesaver in a time when I was sinking. The first time was long ago. There was a decade in my life when I would take cover in the quiet of my basement to cry my eyes out. Alone in the dark, I would not disturb my sleeping family. The messages restricting women to limited roles, coming from my lifelong church, were devouring my heart. I raged against God for many nights until I finally climbed back upstairs to fall asleep exhausted.

I struggled like Jacob wrestling between what I knew in my Spirit-informed heart and what my current church was telling me. The questions poured out:  God, you created me, and you do not make junk; why am I reduced to anatomical functions in the church? You gave me a brain that I cannot use? This was strictly between me and God, and the church as I knew it then. My voice was not valued, my ideas were not sought.

One late hour, after much pleading with God, a revelation descended from the dusty rafters of the basement. A Bible story occurred to me that I hadn’t thought of for years.  Jesus valued female learners in Luke 10:38-42. This was a miracle, Jesus encouraged Mary to learn! My name is Mary. The verses spoke directly to me!  It brought me huge relief. Jesus valued her brain, not just her domestic or reproductive abilities. This was my first serving courtesy Mary and Martha.

Many years later Mary and Martha again served me a new story. Now I had the time to pursue my life-long passion to study in seminary. I very much remembered the season of cooking, cleaning, and the kids’ school activities, while my Bible gathered dust. According to my understanding of Luke 10:38-42, sitting at his feet was the activity Jesus valued most. Had I been negligent in those days when I wasn’t studying regularly? I remembered the nights I prayed cursorily, “God, please forgive me for being “a lessor disciple,” and promptly fell asleep.

I revisited Mary and Martha again, bringing with me a lifetime of experiences walking with Christians. The old questions regularly appeared in women’s discussion groups. “Are you a Mary or Martha?” This story has not made much progress over the years! Was this really a matter that warranted so much impassioned discussion?  The conclusion was always the same: Be more Mary, but Martha cares are necessary. The group conclusions lie uneasy on everyone’s mind.

Praise the Holy Spirit who regularly to enlighten! Even though I could now indulge in my “Mary” side and study the Bible in seminary, I still had a soft spot for Martha. Like most of the population, women and men, long days are spent doing very necessary, but unappreciated work. Are they really “lessor” disciples?

Several new insights occurred to me. A small word in the Greek has been left untranslated and another small word has another valid translation. The result (10:39), “and this woman had a sister named Mary who also was one who always sat at the feet of the Lord listening to his word.”  The Greek word used for “served” can mean the same range of activities as those of a deacon, for instance Phoebe (Romans 16), not necessarily only serving food. When Jesus seems to favor Mary’s choice, the grammar indicates “good,” not necessarily “better” or “the best.” What a relief when I found that the choice between the activities of the two sisters does not have to be made; one being superior, the other warranting disapproval!

Putting together many pieces of a puzzle, a whole new story of Mary and Martha came together. I found no evidence in the text that Mary is on the premises that day of Jesus’ visit. She never speaks nor defends herself because she is absent, following Jesus ministering in the countryside. Indeed, Martha is overwhelmed, but not with kitchen work. She may be concerned about her sister who frequently leaves her to follow Jesus in risky activities. She begs Jesus, “Tell her therefore, that she may give me a hand.” A hand with what? Not kitchen work, but help with the many demands put upon her by the local circle of Jesus followers. She is the first recorded burned-out preacher. She is doing the work which elsewhere describes the work of a deacon, ministering in her village, serving the new believers.

 I found that Mary and Martha were both active leaders pursuing their callings and gifts. One disciples in her community, the other ministering in the countryside with Jesus. They are both not only learning from Jesus, but also practicing and preaching the results of their study and serving the new Jesus followers in every way possible. With this realization, the story is totally new with much greater lessons.
The two “servings” of Mary and Martha have served me well. I have found peace with the Mary and Martha dilemma. One is not more practical than the other. One is not more spiritual than the other. Both have chosen “good” and are following their calls. There is no “lessor” disciple.

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